Focus, Change, and the Elephant in the Room
Posted by Vicki FlaugherJun 18
I find myself at a crossroads. For some time now, I’ve blogged about the how-to for women entrepreneurs. I can honestly say that I’ve done that with a loving and well-meaning heart. I’ve shared what I know, my point of view, and the many experts I have met. I have enjoyed my work.
But, here’s the deal – I feel like a fraud.
You see, I have a confession to make. I haven’t yet seen the success I wish I had, the success I’d like you to have. It doesn’t feel right to blog about something I barely feel I know.
So, SmartWoman Guides is shifting – today, now.
From now on, I am not going to hand out advice or words of wisdom about going this place, or doing that thing. I’m not going to assert anything for you. I am going to speak to you from my heart, from the place I’m at as I focus, change, and dare I say it – mention the elephant in the room.
What elephant, you ask? Like many of you I have met, I have a tendency to give to others first. Instead of nurturing myself, honoring my intuition, and taking time for my inner dialogue, I keep giving. Service is important, but, as I have said so many times, you put on your own oxygen mask first. This, I guess, is my way of doing that.
I pledge to offer a more intimate and deeply honest revelation of myself to you. I will allow and fully own my thoughts and feelings about finding my way in this world, making a living, sharing my gifts. I will let example be the teacher. If there is anger, fear or sadness, I will not hide it behind a mask of optimism. I will express it and release it hoping that, by giving myself permission to be more real, you too will do so in your own life.
This blog will shift more toward the inspirational and motivational issues of being a whole, contributing woman in this wonderful world I call home. I’ll discuss life balance, finding pleasure, discovering purpose and how I’m doing outrageous things to move myself forward.
The “professional marketer” in me is screaming bloody murder, saying “Don’t make this all about you! Nobody wants to hear that! People want to hear about what’s in it for them. They don’t care about YOU.” I acknowledge my approach won’t appeal to everyone. I pray that you will discover something you can relate to here. If not, then I thank you for your support up until now and bid you farewell and best wishes.
But, if there is anything I can take away from my SmartWoman Guides experience so far, it is this – you, fine reader, are an excellent person. You have a wealth of knowledge, a depth of experience, and an amazing ability to touch the heart of the matter. I feel without a shadow of doubt that I am in such fine company as I welcome this renewed commitment to the exploration of Life that I cannot possibly lose. I am among friends and I feel blessed.
My highest hope for this experience between us is that each of us learns our path, that we walk it through self-reliance, and that we are a comfort to each other as we find our way. So, I am retiring the “teacher” mode and am going to just express Vicki, with all her glorious quirks, pitfalls, and attributes. I will be honored for you to just express YOU too -not the roles you play, but the real Self inside. Consider this your official invitation.
Thank you for everything!
Vicki








19 comments
Comment by Judy on June 18, 2009 at 3:38 pm
Thanks Vicki for modeling what bold and generous self love looks and feels like!
What a treat!
You know I’ve been quoting Dr. Howard Thurman lately: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Instead, ask, what brings me alive and go do that. Because, what the world needs is more people who have come alive.”
I LOVE that you just couldn’t stand not being your fullest self any longer!
whooopeee!
Your commitment to being alive just created so much more room for all of us to do the same.
Can you feel the thank you flow creating greater ease in your journey?
w/ much love and admiration!
Judy
Judys last blog post..Summer of Love Redux
Comment by Vicki Flaugher on June 18, 2009 at 4:05 pm
Judy, I thank you. You are a dear person and such a beautiful crafter of words. What generous self love looks like…wow, that gives me chills. Forget lipstick – slather on the generous self love…WOOT! I’m in and I’m glad you’re here.
Vicki
Vicki Flaughers last blog post..Focus, Change, and the Elephant in the Room
Comment by Jeannette on June 18, 2009 at 9:34 pm
There is no doubt in my mind that we readers will find incredible value as you share your journey here with us.
Kudos to you for following your guidance and doing it OUT LOUD! WOO HOO!
Jeannettes last blog post..Holy Hannah, This Stuff Works Fast!
Comment by Vicki Flaugher on June 19, 2009 at 2:52 am
Jeanette,
Thank you for the comment. It’s admittedly pretty raw and vulnerable to be out loud, but I think it’s time – it’s my time. Glad you’re here!
Vicki
Vicki Flaughers last blog post..Focus, Change, and the Elephant in the Room
Comment by Kelly on June 19, 2009 at 7:32 am
Vicki,
You are no fraud. Every bit of advice I’ve read here has always been useful, or touching in some way, and made me think harder or work harder. That’s what blog-writing is all about.
Does a sportswriter have to be able to hit a home run off a major-leaguer? He or she has to be able to write inspiringly about the beauty of it, has to know how it’s done to critique or talk mechanics, has to understand the intricacies to ask the right questions and help readers be intrigued and amazed by the players.
You’ve got all that. Keep up the great writing in whatever shape it may take.
Regards,
Kelly
Kellys last blog post..The Next BIG THING
Comment by SmartWomanGuides on June 19, 2009 at 9:25 am
Kelly,
What a kind and beautiful thing to say. I am very happy that what you have read here has helped you. I am so thankful for your support and I promise I will keep doing my best! Thanks for coming by.
Vicki
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